I just want someone who is healthy and respects their body.

If you're chubby and are physically active then it's fine, but it's more of a mindset.

Even if someone was thin, but ate only junk food or take out then that's still a no for me. I used to be overweight, I'm at a healthy weight now, not athletic though.

Even if someone was thin, but ate only junk food or take out then that's still a no for me.

I’ll admit, I used to feel pressure to overcompensate for my plus-size body. If I had to guess, I’d say this behavior is the result of years and years of never seeing my body represented anywhere in a positive way.

I pushed it into every part of my profile, just to make sure whoever was taking a peak would know what they were getting into first. Women who look like me in TV shows and movies are always the unaware, funny fat friend. We are the comic relief; the food obsessed; the desexualized maternal character. In fact, I’m very much known for my act-first dating method — basically going up to people at bars and saying, “Hi, I’m Laura. I’m sitting over at the bar if you think I’m cute and want to keep chatting.” I have fought through the self-hatred to come out on the other side with a This is not to say that you shouldn’t write out a descriptor of your body on a dating app. I’m the first to talk openly about the plus-size experience; ready and willing!

We can’t just be looking for a date, a hook-up, a side-piece.


I've seen women who are fat but are still very pretty and take care of themselves.

This is not the first time someone has realized I am plus-size after we matched.

I’ve had potential dates review my photos after exchanging a few messages and then ghost me.

This counts as a revolutionary act as a person of size in 2017: stating to the world that you should swipe right if you’re attracted to me and not worry that you’re going to forever be known as a chubby-chaser.

There’s this misconception in online dating that plus women can’t have standards, value, confidence.

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